GuingesRock wrote:Jeltz, The non-smoking guy
Would you tell us about the psychological principals behind your method please? Do you reckon the same principals would apply to carbohydrate addiction? which was my other question in #14 above.
Thanks
Well firstly its not "my" method, its what I picked up from the likes of Allen Carr, the WhyQuit.com website, Freedom from smoking online quit program and "The Tales" which I linked to. I wanted to put a name to what I was doing and tracked it down to being a kind of CBT.
The principle is that you make a concious effort to change the way you think about things, in this case smoking. The easy thing is that with smoking its pretty easy to research how the drug is working, what it does and how it makes you feel. That way you can rationalise things and choose to think in a particular way.
If you want to look at the same effect done in a less rational way then everyone has met someone that has told a lie so many times that they actually start to believe it themselves.
One thing I did when I first quit was to talk to myself and actually tell myself "Come one Nic, you don't smoke any more you don't really want one." People may have thought I was a nutter but I found it works, apparently new age hippy type life coaches refer to that as affirmations. But for me it was a valuable tool.
If you wish to apply the principles to any other compulsion you need to rationalise, why you want to do it, tell yourself that you are doing it and most importantly want to do it and keep on doing so until you believe it yourself.
As for your question about the 1st couple of weeks the tools I found to work were distraction and acceptance. If I could focus on something else that was good, whether it be fixing something, having a shower, eating something (spicy snacks were great) there were lots of choices. Things that give a bit of a high were also handy exercise, chocolate and bananas helped in the 1st few weeks. Acceptance was also a handy trick, by looking on the process of one of healing it meant that when I craved it was just a symptom of the healing process, I remember my mother used to say to me as a child when I said a scab had become itchy that just means its healing leave it alone or it will never heal, so when I had a craving I though of it in the same way an itch that I mustn't scratch or it would never heal!
Since quitting I too am much calmer. I find that there was an anxiety that came with smoking, whether its because of the constant stresses on your body of undulating nicotine levels, i.e. symptomatic or a direct effect i.e. causal (or a combination of both) I'm not sure but it was definitely there with me. I am a pretty confident person but became more confident once quit.
I find it much easier to think through a problem without the nagging want for a smoke wondering into my mind and disrupting my thought process.